Reflecting weekly on the beauty in every day moments, reasons to be thankful and celebrating small successes with the #myhearty life linky.
I’m grateful for …
Family, friends and strangers who read my blog posts and are moved to share a comment. It means so much to me to receive feedback. I read a quote once by the late Dr Wayne Dyer along the lines of “be independent of the good opinion of others” meaning pay no mind to hurtful criticism but also have no need of praise for your efforts either. I feel comfortable saying I’m not seeking praise by wishing I had more comments on my posts but that I’d like more of an exchange of thoughts, connecting with people in a less one sided way, having a conversation. I often wonder, to myself or aloud to G, whether it’s an indulgence to use my limited free time to write stories if they go unread. When readers of my blog take the time to comment it helps me to feel I’m having a positive impact in the world in some small way. It may not be of any significance in the world’s eyes but in my eyes anything that brings a smile to someone’s face, a moment of pause to a stressful day or helps someone to consider what is joyful in their life then my writing time is not wasted.
I succeeded at …
Letting go of the idea that my toddler should be sleeping better by now. When you have two children it’s inevitable you compare how well they sleep, eat, talk etc at milestone moments, even if you’ve managed to avoid such comparisons with other people’s children. I had low expectations of L sleep wise as E didn’t go through the whole night without waking until he was 2.5 years old. I still have low expectations of when L will no longer wake me at all but being entirely honest I had hoped for more than 2 hour stretches by now (he’ll be 2 in April). We do co-sleep and breastfeed so at least I’m not pacing the room at night with him but the fractured sleep cycles definitely effect my energy levels, mood and perspective. I’ve learnt the key to managing it is to focus on me not him, practicing good self-care as shared in my first #myheartylife post, so I can ensure a calmer response to the situation rather than feeling the strain of wishing he was different. He wakes for a reason, be it hunger, comfort or fear and until he can tell me more directly what it is milk is his solution for everything and we’ll keep rolling with it.
I found beauty in …
Learning how to use my camera more expertly to capture the beauty of the boys and their curious spirits and cheeky ways. I went for a bimble with Luca in our favourite local gardens with our photographer friend Shane. He helped me work through the limitations of using the automatic camera settings on my DSLR and brave the manual settings with greater understanding and awareness. He ended up taking the shots as L was more at ease with me interacting with him and we used it as a learning tool for how changes of light and background can make all the difference. My priority is capturing ordinary every day moments not getting the perfect shot and I now have greater awareness of how to maximise the beauty of the scene around us while losing none of the essence of the moment.
My other #myhearty life posts are here. Thank you to Mary at The Hearty Life for inspiration (sadly the linky is no longer running).
May 2018 update – I’m also linking this post to the supportive and positive blogging community that is #BestBootForward hosted by Kate on Thin Ice and Indigo Wilderness. It’s a weekly linkup for sharing positive celebrations of life, successes through challenge or simply spreading a little cheer.