Reflecting weekly on the beauty in every day moments, reasons to be thankful and celebrating small successes with the #myheartylife linky.
I’m grateful for …
Birthdays and having my boys to celebrate them with. As children my mum always made special birthday cakes for us and hosted parties but once I left home and plans to celebrate fell to me I became very shy about inviting people round. I put it down to my generalised social anxiety about parties and not wanting a fuss or to be centre of attention but I wonder now if my awkwardness simply denied loved ones of the opportunity to let me know how much I mean to them. Birthdays became harder and harder through my 30s; each one marking another year in which we hadn’t become parents. It was painful to experience ageing alongside infertility when each birthday was potentially nudging us further away from what we wanted. Finally becoming parents 14 years after getting married changed everything and brought with it a whole new appreciation of why celebrating birth-days is so important. Now as a Mum of two I welcome the fuss, just as I love to make a fuss of my boys on their birthdays, because it’s an opportunity to show how deeply loved and appreciated a person is. And my favourite thing about birthdays? Always my little handmade cards – what better gift can there be than this?
While the boys are small I have no expectation of special birthday days out with G, instead we make birthday celebrations fun for the whole family. Last week we made an after school trip to a soft play centre in Stroud and I worked off my double helping of birthday cake crawling through tunnels and playing in the ball pit. That’s every 43 year olds idea of a dream birthday right?
I succeeded at …
Feeling good after completing a 24 hour fast. Previous attempts at fasting, long before I had children, always ended up with a headache mid afternoon and breaking the fast in the most appalling way with something meagre and healthy followed by crisps or biscuits! (I know stupid hey but a starving body will crave the calories and I my will was weak). I now understand that was inevitable as my body was not only lacking it’s nutrients for that day but also depleted of minerals – I’d fasted from wake up to wake up which is actually more like 36 hours having last eaten the night before! This time around I watched several videos on Youtube by Thomas Delauer who explains in simple ways the science behind intermittent fasting and shares tips for how to look after yourself through a fast. As I’ve already stopped snacking in the evening and make dinner time with the boys my last food of the day I chose 5pm to 5pm to be my 24 hour window for fasting. During the day I drank green tea, black Earl grey tea, apple cider vinegar and water which all helped to stave off hunger pangs and I felt surprisingly energised and resistant to picking as I prepared breakfast for the boys and then lunch for L. It was good to then share dinnertime with the boys knowing that for one day at least I’d given my digestive system a bit of a rest, hydrated well and received some detoxing benefits too.
I found beauty in …
Old stone and E’s fascination with their story – his wide eyed curiosity about the ruins of St Oswolds Priory as I tried to explain the history of the 1300 year old stones in a way he could comprehend. He did well for a 6 year old – ‘‘so I don’t know anyone from then do I Mum because they’re all dead now?”. I walk past the ruins every Tuesday morning on my way to the pool but haven’t really explored them since E was little. It was fun re-creating the moments captured on film 4 years ago with a new toddler in tow. The boys are the same age in the last photo.
Further #myhearty life posts are here.
May 2018 update – I’m also linking this post to the supportive and positive blogging community that is #BestBootForward hosted by Kate on Thin Ice and Indigo Wilderness. It’s a weekly linkup for sharing positive celebrations of life, successes through challenge or simply spreading a little cheer.