Whether you’re a Facebook user or not you’ll understand what I mean when I say I have a love/hate relationship with social media. I don’t like the way it sucks me in and gobbles up my free time with pointless trivia, other people’s arguments and, at it’s worse, assaults me with evidence of pure heartlessness. At it’s best, and the reason why I stay opted in, it connects me with loved ones and provides many heartwarming stories of compassion, love and kindness. A reminder that the world is not the hate-full place the media would have us believe.
The internet provides some wonderful ideas for crafting activities, creating our own family traditions, gentle parenting advice and amusing things to chat to E about. Like this Q&A that did the rounds on Facebook last week. I think we may have to repeat something like it year on year to see how E’s answers change with age (and mine!). So without any prompting, I asked 3 year old E for answers to the following questions (I did have to explain a couple of terms to him when he looked puzzled and said ”I don’t know what that means”)
1. What is something Mummy always says to you? Thank you
2. What makes Mummy happy? Hugging Euan
3. What makes Mummy sad? Don’t know. Nothing?
4. How does Mummy make you laugh? Tickling
5. What was Mummy like as a child? Small
6. How old is Mummy? 40
7. How tall is Mummy? a bit tall
8. What is Mummy’s favourite thing to do? bobbinging Euan
(N: ”What’s bobbinging?”. E: ‘‘Don’t know”).
9. What does Mummy do when you’re not here? go to work
10. If Mummy becomes famous what will it be for? Don’t know
11. What is Mummy really good at? Bab
(Me: ‘‘What’s that?”. E: ”It’s when you do something very nice”)
12. What is Mummy not very good at? Badminton
13. What is Mummy’s job? doing letters on the computer
14. What is Mummy’s favourite food? I don’t notice
15. What makes you proud of Mummy? doing something very nice
16. If Mummy was a cartoon character who would she be? a bunny
17. What do you and Mummy do together? make Lego
18. How are you and Mummy the same? We’ve got bones
19. How are you and Mummy different? I’ve got different clothes on
20. How do you know Mummy loves you? I’ve got hugs in my brain
21. What does Mummy like best about Daddy? You love him very much
22. Where is Mummy’s favourite place to go? Hillfields
23. What did Mummy do before you were born? You made me
And how did my answers compare? He was pretty spot on with most of them.
My favourite food is peas and anything is pallatable with chutney or balsamic vinegar draped over it. Being a Mum makes me happy. Letting other people’s opinions dent my self-confidence makes me sad. Doing something nice (bab!) for other people gives me a sense of purpose. Before E was born I hoped for a miracle. And what I like best about E’s Daddy is his compassionate heart, gentle strength and ability to discern when wise words or silent bear hugs are most needed.
Update – we repeated this interview 3 years later – Introducing Mummy by 6 year old Euan
And contrary to earlier thoughts on social media I’ve been living a Facebook free life since August 2016. You can find me photo sharing on Pinterest, Instagram and Twitter.